I also would like to contact some exes….in my case, there never was a horrible breakup with the two people I would like to connect with….just lost touch.
Honestly, my biggest fear is that they are married/involved and I would not want the drama of some woman in the background being upset…and/or the man just being really cold because he cannot really talk. That sort of thing. One of my close friends contacted an old boyfriend and his (new) wife was on the other phone the whole time, listening. It was very strange.
Hmm…I think it is just a fear of rejection…in the end…one way or another. Where my desire to connect and see how things are….are just rebuffed.
I have always liked remaining friends with my ex-boyfriends…except for maybe two who were not so nice.