@galileogirl GA! Spot on.
Today my gift was from my Dad’s wife. She purchased a sleeveless, black vest made from a warm type of material. It’s very nice and I’m sure very expensive…but I don’t wear black! And it just wasn’t my style. Actually, when I saw it I thought….That’s my daughter’s! That’s the kind of stuff she wears. Well, said daughter was here, and after I thanked my Dad’s wife on the phone very much for her thoughtfulness, I asked my daughter, “Um. Is this me?”
She said, “No! It’s me!”
I said, “Yep!” and gave it to her! She was tickled pink. (Ot would that be tickled black?:)
What possible, earthly good would it have done to tell my Dad’s wife that…it just wasn’t my style? I mean, should I send it back to Flordia with a note that says “Get me something that’s in my style this time!!” Hail no! I was grateful for the thought and time she put into shopping for it, picking it out, and mailing it out. So my thanks were sincere, and it’s now in the hands of someone who REALLY appreciates it.
It could depend on the context too. If you have an S/O who is constantly buying birthday and Christmas gifts that are….inappropriate for you, maybe it’s time for a talk! After all, it IS both of your money. Both of your monies. Money of both of you…ish! I can’t figure out a good way to say that! But a gift from a friend or a relative…? Nah. Just keep your mouth shut!