I prefer confrontation, I prefer having people feel it’s okay to be honest with me, especially when and if it is about me. I realize however that many people are into this politically correct spare my feelings and I’ll laugh at you behind your back bullcrap…
Honesty affords us all our right to know when and where we need correction with our scope of personal error and right action.
Everyone has a right to make mistakes, but I feel that they as well have a right to know others feelings concerning those mistakes.
I can be a bit much, I have a temper, and I can get loud and even be disagreeable often times downright antagnoistic. I know it though, so I have a mouth, but I also have self control and common sence that prevents me from harming anyone or doing anything stupid.
I think it’s a total lack of respect to just allow another person to fumble through when they need correction in order to better themselves in important social and life experience ways.
Being gentle and tactful however is somehow difficult with some people unwilling to bend or to change. I am not that person, if I am wrong, and you can reasonably show me I am wrong, my opinions alter quite easily. I have gone through my entire life taking stock and reapplying life and opinions and actually FORMING a personality instead of just adopting one and sticking to things that no longer fit.
I believe by sharing, by caring about another person enough to make that personal sacrifice and to put forth the effort says more about you than it does about the other person even in error. Those who keep it to themselves and mock you or torment you behind your back for things that they are not giving the other person the benefit of the doubt that they might be able to alter or adjust are just bullies and cowards.
I think you pretty much handle yourself rather well Wan, you’re good!