You get whatever you deserve. If someone loves you right this moment, it’s because you did something to deserve it. If someone doesn’t love you right this moment, it’s because you didn’t do something to deserve it. If someone stops loving you right this moment, it’s because you did something to deserve them to stop.
Love is a belief. People “believe” they love you. It happens to be a fact that people can’t simply choose to believe whatever they want about you, they can only believe according to the information they’ve processed about you.
If every day you walk up to a person and kick them in the shins… they’re going to remember that and they’re not going to love you very much. If however you leave people with positive memories about you then they’re going to remember those good things about you and they won’t be able to help it.
Whatever memories you leave with someone is what they will be stuck believing you represent to them. What this means is that if you want to be loved, you can go ahead and GET loved by leaving positive memories in someone elses head about you.
Yes, people can rationalize your good actions away to form a new belief that you are insincere. But they can only do that if there is a reason for it. So, don’t give them a reason for it. :) Don’t leave them with any reason to doubt your sincerity. In fact, leave them with a memory that you’re the type of person who they can say anything to without worry. that way, if ever they do have reason to doubt you, you’ll have programmed in a “return to base” function: they’ll come talk to you about it and you’ll have a new chance to give them more information to prove to them that you are sincere and purely awesomely lovable.
With all your relationships perfectly set up, you’ll never have to worry about being loved ever again because you’ll know that anyone who has an issue with you will just come talk to you! So, as long as no one is talking to you about it, you’ll know you’re loved by those people!