Fact from fiction, truth from diction. There have been several long-standing ideal or believes I have had in life that I have modified over they years. Two of sorts is what is really important in the woman you have and another was dating older women with kids.
When I was young I guess what I thought of as the quintessential came from magazines, TV, beer commercials etc. I thought she had to be some leggy blonde with a rack and long flowing mane of golden hair. She was the darling of Baywatch, the anchor of the Swedish Bikini Team, the tanned beauty of the Coppertone ads. But then I started to really look as I got older and wiser that brunettes were more exotic and mysterious looking, and on top of that she could be gorgeous to 100,000 men but if she had an attitude that was in the toilet I didn’t care to be around here and her stinkin’ thinkin’ was enough to nullify any beauty she had. A less than gorgeous girl with a hair of gold and an attitude to match made her over all 500,000 time more attractive them some magazine flawless girl with a pissy attitude.
When I was younger I never thought why guys always avoided women with children, I thought maybe they did not like children or did not want to be a parent having an instant family. I love kids myself. But then as I got older I started to experience the baggage that comes with a woman who has kids already, and the age of the kids play how heavy that baggage is. If the kids are real young and the father is dead or never to be in the picture again the load is the lightless (which is a scenario you hardly ever will get), if the father is still alive and close then you have him to deal with (an will be so long as he is close and alive). If the children are older and the father is out of the picture you might have a slim chance but you are for the most part still the interloper moving in on the bastion that was theirs and there mother’s. You have to be pretty good to get quickly vetted out by the kids. If the kids are older and the dad is still around that is the worse, especially if the dad is not a complete and total douche bag. You have the father still around stirring s***, and you are the roadblock that will make sure mom and dad never get back together. You are not their new father as much as you are mom’s new man, so when it comes to telling them what to do and how you have little clout. The best way avoid all that all together and steer clear of the gal with kids unless you have the best of all scenarios.