It is impossible! People like this are so flippin’ narcissistic in my opinion they don’t really listen to other people, they don’t give a shit about anything except what is important to them. I find them to be needy, unhappy, selfish people unable to put themselves in the other persons shoes. If you have the time to psychoanalyze them and figure out where their pain comes from and what they need to be able to listen to others, and if their request is reasonable you might be able to deal with them, but I can’t see that happening with the Taliban or an asshole who parks in front of your driveway over and over again. The only time it is sometimes worth your time is if they are family members who you love and need to figure out a way to get along better, assuming they are willing to work on the problem also.