So this is just me. I’m a pretty melancholy person. I just don’t trust cheery people. It seems fake, to me. I feel like they are hiding something. Everyone has issues, but if you always put on your happy face, no one can get past it to find out who you really are.
Like I said. That’s just me. I’m sure many people absolutely love cheery people. They just aren’t my cup of tea. In any case, if my feelings have given you any assistance in understanding what might be going on, I’m glad. But it is most likely that my experience doesn’t fit with yours.
My advice, however, is to stop being cheery all the time. Be real. I.e., express your real feelings as best you can, even if they are sad feelings. Be happy when you’re happy, but don’t hide sadness when you are sad. Just be the total you.
A lot of people think they need to be happy because other people don’t like unhappy people. It’s not true. People like real people. In any case, you will find it much easier just being yourself, instead of pretending to be something else.
Here’s a thought—what if someone did come to really like you because of who you pretended to be? What would happen when they found out who you really are?
I used to try to be what I thought other people wanted. It didn’t work for me. First, I was bad at pretending, and second, I didn’t like anyone who liked me for being someone other than I was. I found out it was a waste of time to try to pretend. I may be lonelier and I may have fewer “friends” now, but at least I am secure in knowing who I am.