Maybe try doing cat-eye liquid eyeliner on your top lid. I think it looks great when it’s done right. You have to go thin along the lashes, gradually getting thicker as you reach the end of your eye and extend past it. Perhaps paired with smoky eyeshadow, dark gray on the outer lid, fading into a lighter gray to the inner corner. They sell palettes in drug stores that have pale gray, medium gray, dark gray. I know I can’t live without mine. You can do subtle darkening with it, or something deep and intense. If you wet the applicator, it makes the shadow come out really dark and thick.
You could do something like this too. Apply the gray shadow along the bottom lashes… but like in the picture, mix in some gold or a light color on top so you don’t look like a zombie.