Ouch, Cupcake, I can see why you were hurt. Maybe they thought they were doing the best thing by keeping their cool, but righteous indignation from our loved ones is an important way for them to show that they care. Have you ever talked to them about how their reaction made you fee?
Yes, quite a few times, especially with my parents. The first time, I had broken up with a guy who was cheating on me. They simply said, “Oh, he’s not cheating on you” (they idolized him and thought he was this perfect guy). They were dismissive of my hurt feelings, which I ended up repressing for quite a while. The cycle repeated itself when I told them that I’d been sexually harrassed by someone at my college. They just didn’t even care. But those experiences spurred me onto maturity, because I saw that they couldn’t be counted on for emotional support. Instead, I learned to be more self-reliant.