It’s neither. Since I left my S/O in August I’ve been celibate. I plan to remain so until I find a good man who actually wants to marry me. if it means I’ll be celibate forever, oh well. I want someone to truly value me. I’ve learned that if you allow a man to treat you like a whore, he will. That’s fine for others who don’t want permanent, I’m not criticizing, ok? I just feel differently now. It’s not a huge deal, people did it all the time a hundred years ago. So, celibacy works for those of us who want something else than the usual stuff that’s out there.