honestly, @___ they sound very ignorant. and i don’t mean that they are “ignorant about how to deal with their emotions.” i mean this person sounds like they have unrealistic expectations about what you (and likely other humans) are capable of enduring, appreciating, and generally how to deal with other human beings.
As an outrageous example, imagine a big dumb giant cyclops that walks into the village. He doesn’t mean any harm but he’s totally impressed to see mini humanoids. So, he starts picking them up and smushing them on the ground, lauging and giggling all the way. Then of course, the humans get angry and the troops come out and they start burning his shoes and throwing spears at his eye. Next thing you know, the big dumb cyclops is captured and being served for a feast. 3000 widows are weeping and half the village is destroyed. Ignorance is a big problem. Especially for people who have a lot of power.
Imagine if you could, if that cyclops were actually time traveling back into the past. Was educated in the language and ways of the people he was visiting. Had medical supplies and technology to share.. as well, imagine if he had an introductory speech prepared to deliver to the king and all the people. Things would go very differently for the cyclops in this case.
Okay, I’ll get to the point, what I’m actually saying is: Your loved one is a big dumb cyclops who needs to be cannibalized! No, wait.. that’s not it.. okay.. your loved one is a big dumb cyclops who needs to be educated in the ways and reasons of civilized humanity before s/he can be introduced to the vulnerable public masses.