@partyparty If the argument is something emotional, how I have been treated by someone, or how they feel I treated them, then I want to go on and on until I feel better or understood, because I never intentionally want to hurt someone, especially someone I care about. What I have learned is that with certain people there is no point, because they don’t want to understand me, they want to stick with whatever they think. There might be many different reason for why they have to stay with their way of thinking, they might be right fighters, they may be unable to admit when they are wrong, they might feel better about themselves when they can think other people are wrong. Maybe they are just black and white people, unable to think in shades of gray. As long as it is not my husband I generally get to a point that I am willing to let them think whatever they want, but it typically means we won’t be very close, not in the way of really trusting each other. I think this is why arguing, and being able to solve arguments is so important, because if you believe I want to hurt you, then how can you trust me and vice versa?
I admit that sometimes I decide a person is “limited” and I don’t try hard to push my point, and eventually avoid arguing with them altogther, just act all sweet and nice when around them, let them be right about everything, and smile.
If it is about a fact, and I can prove it, I might look it up and show them the proof.
If it is opinion, like politics, diet, etc., I am fine if they don’t agree with me, I can easily agree to disagree.