I was on that aforementioned thread and strongly disagreed with the idea that it was “cheating”, because cheating is “not playing by the rules”. So if you SO sets rules and doesn’t want you to do something, you should respect that. My wife and I don’t care, our relationship isn’t based on physical attraction or titillation, it’s about more than that, eye candy is eye candy, pure and simple. I had never gone to a strip club before I was married, and I did not plan to go on my bachelor party, nor did I ask the fellas to take me, but they did take me to one, and honestly, I wasn’t all that impressed. This was a totally nude club where there were bony ass women (ribs just turn me off) gyrating their pierced labia (another turn off for me) all over the place. The guys got me a lap dance with a girl who was actually pretty and who had a nice body, it was “fun”, an interesting experience that is nice that I’ve gotten out of the way, because I like to experience different things in life, but 10 years later, I’ve never once had the desire to go to another strip club. My wife didn’t care, and every time the Chippendales come to town I tell her she should go, but she just doesn’t care all that much either…one of those things like if it comes up, and some friends were going, she might accompany them, and I suppose if some guy friends wanted to get together at a strip club, I might go, but nothing either of us would seek out, and neither of us would care if the other one did it because it’s not like we’re going to have any sort of relationship (even a purely physical one) with the strippers, and our relationship is built on things other than turning each other on physically. That’s just a component, like the cherry on top of the sundae. A lot of people marry people they aren’t even physically attracted to because love isn’t about physical attraction, so I simply feel like watching someone strip is no different than watching porn or looking at a Playboy or what not. Just eye candy…it’s one thing if you fantasize about, damn, I’d love to tap that one night when my wife isn’t watching, but it’s wholly another to say, wow, that looks nice and makes my parts all tingly. It’s about intent and action and I don’t see it as problematic. But that said, if your SO doesn’t like it, then it’s a betrayal to do it anyway. If my wife had a problem with me seeing other women nude, I wouldn’t have gone along with the fellas.