Hi,
Communication skills are aquired @ the enviromnet of the family @ young age, try to look around, is anyone else in your family dealing with a similar problem? and if not, what differs their behavior from yours in company? if you find that most of your family memebers have a problem creating social connections, try and look around, what do other people do diffrent than you?
A lot of times, social issues are related to the way we “carry ourselfs”, people respond to who we think we are, do you think of yourself as “unimportant”? “nothing special”? “boring”? “just another person”? are you maybe very unconfident? or have a low self esteem? people tend to respond to that in feeling that there must be something “wrong” with you, it has a scientific explanation related to our animal instincts. If so, these could be major reason why you experience this.
I am willing to contribute a short exercise, that can help you focus your mind, mind-focusing is very important and can make a big diffrence when we are trying to achieve anything, as it is already known in science even, that our mind draws us to what we lay as a target:
Try and make a list of “who you are”:
write down 5 good qualities of you that make you a good friend
now write down 5 things that make you an intresting person
now write down 5 things you like to do that you can share with friends when you have them.
write down what kind of person are you and what do you offer to a frienship
write down what kind of people you can connect to and are good friends for you and why.
write down what kind of people can find you valuable.
if you are having trouble with any of these, and most likely that you will, dont give up, just allow this to remanin a question, write it down and keep asking it to yourself untill you find the answer from whithin, or understand it from looking around. and dont let yourself get away with less than 5 items per question, it is most often that not knowing our own value is exactly what leads us to social problems.
and most important: consider proffessional help, it is no shame to recieve help and grow from your problems. I suggest life-coaching, since this is my field of expertise, it had helped me a lot aswell and I deeply believe in it as a wonderfull tool to resolve issues, but there are other solutions such as psychology.
Good luck!!!