I have a friend like this. For him it’s not suicide, but he’s so emo, he’s always, and I mean ALWAYS, lamenting about how he’s useless, doesn’t deserve friendship, will never be good enough for anyone, can’t do anything right, how he’s always lonely and on and on.
It’s sad for me to say this of a friend, but he has absolutely NO life, and he always dismisses my advice. Now of course mine may not be any good, but everyone tries to help him…before they give up. I’ve come to the conclusion that he just wants attention and sympathy and nothing else, yet I’ve dealt with him ever since I was 19, and I’m 27 now.
He’s really hard to deal with though, and is sometimes extremely insensitive, whether he knows it or not, but I think he has severe problems, and we have been friends forever so.
I mean that’s not ALL he’s about, it’s just a fault, but a damn big one. I wish he could find a girlfriend or something so his esteem would rise then he’d stop crying all over my lap all the time haha.
But to answer the question, I’m patient, and while I don’t believe I’m being used, even if I am, he has shown himself to be a real friend more than once in other ways. People ain’t perfect. So that’s why I’m still dealing with it-if he wasn’t a friend, I wouldn’t look at him twice, as I generally avoid attention fishers like the plague.
And when attention isn’t the name of the game, well you can only help them as much as they want to help themselves…if it concerns suicide however, I’d interfere with the help of phone lines and such. If it’s repeated and always false, I’d like to say that I’d tell em to fuck off, however it really isn’t wise to fuck with suicide even if it seems a fallacy.