My s/o and I have been together about two years, before that we were friends for about 4 years. I have decided to join the military, but I don’t wanna lose him. We are considering getting married. I love him and I know I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but there are a lot of “what ifs”. Like, what if I get deployed and he decides he doesn’t love me as much as he thought? I couldn’t stand the thought of coming home knowing that it won’t be to him. Or what if I change in the military and he doesn’t like the person I become? What if I’m wrong and I am supposed to be with someone else I haven’t met yet. Also we always planned on waiting another year or two before we got married, so we would have more money saved up to have the wedding and honeymoon we want. I kinda feel like I’m cheating myself out of the engagement/wedding experience. I love him so much and he is so good to me – I feel guilty for having these thoughts. Is this normal? I think if we don’t get married and I join the military and leave him behind, we will just fade apart. I really don’t wanna lose him. What’s your opinion?