Unless your each other’s “first”, one of you is going to have more experience (or at least different experience) than the other. What does it matter which gender had more or less?

I have much more sexual experience than my SO. Mainly because I discovered the BDSM lifestyle earlier. Being a Domme it’s almost, in a way, required. This is all personal opinion though. To take on and have a submissive, I have to know what the heck I’m doing. Things can get out of hand and potentially dangerous otherwise.

In a “vanilla” relationship (please don’t take offense, it’s a term widely used in the BDSM lifestyle) I think that no matter who has more experience, it will benefit both partners in the long run. I mean, how much fun is it to learn something new between the sheets? I think I might have to go surprise my SO @ home now :D

Everyone is insecure about their sexual abilities. If your girlfriend is going to judge you based on that, do you really want to be with her? You shouldn’t.

Don’t worry about it. You will learn each other’s bodies as time goes on. You will become more able to please each other as time goes on. That’s what a relationship is about. If it’s only sex to you, get a prostitute. You’re always the best lover in the world to a pro.

Some women like it while others find it boring. Most girls want a guy with some kind of experience.

I don’t identify with a gender, but I’ll answer this anyway (because why shouldn’t I) – I have a lot more experience than my SO – I caught him up in the beginning on things I like and we experimented together and now it makes no difference because we experience each other and the past doesn’t matter.

@ElleBee ; well said! It’s always fun to learn some new with someone new and to discover out of the blue that they are willing is even better. I have been into bdsm all my life and the wife did not discover it untill she met me, having been vanilla and was getting board too! We switch all the time but I top/ dom mostly taking her by surprise or by planned direction over a few days ending in a climax including clamps, whips and the like.

My quick story is I met the wife and we dated, after a few months I was making up gifts for friends and one got mistakenly sent to her with scented foliage and a leather collar and leash! I discovered the blunder when the intended recipient got the foliage and chocolate (she was not complaining!). So I thought the wife (then dating) would never call me again so I waited several days and called to make a date and went over to pick her up, knocking on the door it mysteriously creaked open so I went inside and called her and she said she was almost ready only to emerge with a shirt buttoned up and a purse and asked me to hold it for the leash to drop out, she got those big eyes and said “is this how it’s is supposed to be worn” (tearing off the shirt) only wearing a sleevless tank) and then saying “do you_really_want to go out?

It doesn’t really matter who has more experience. It’s fun to teach, and it’s also fun to learn.

@phil196662 : Oh my HOT!!! (drools)

I’ve never been uneasy or much concerned even if I’ve thought my partner has more experience than me. My top thoughts are more what kind of experiences we’ll be making together.

My husband has only had one other partner other than me, so two total. I’ve had… a lot more than that. :) He knows this with little attention to the details. He doesn’t care. I don’t care. We’re awesome in the sack together and we trust each other, so it doesn’t matter.

I don’t care, he doesn’t care, so it’s all good