@Hypocrisy_Central (and everyone else saying this) – Attraction doesn’t always equal action. Like I said, I’m very happily married, quite satisfied, etc., but can easily find other people attractive. When I say this, it’s in the sense that I can look at Orlando Bloom as Legolas and think he’s totally hot, and appreciate his looks much like I would a perfect rose. (Substitute anyone you like for Orlando here, point still stands.) It doesn’t mean I’m going to try to find out Orlando’s address so I can sneak in his window and shag him – it just means that I appreciate eye candy when I see it.
There is a biiiiiiiiiggg difference between “being attracted to” and “acting on that attraction.” Big! I don’t even see how you can choose to not be attracted to someone, because it happens as naturally as breathing. Can you risk your marriage by walking down the street with your eyes open? Should married people totally look the other way when some cute star is on the movie screen (or the family reunion for that matter)? That would make life awfully inconvenient.
Before deciding that this is a marriage problem for the OP, we’d need to know more, I think about if this is just the “ooh, he looks nice/smells good/is pleasant company” sort of attraction, or if it’s the “I would do anything to get in his bed, and I’m considering asking him if he’s interested in The Boink.” The Boink is usually out of bounds in most marriages, but I cannot comprehend how “being attracted to” segues right into “chasing the Boink.”