Wow, what a bunch of….insightful answers from the male species. @Blackberry, for the record; I don’t know what your ex wife did to get her information, but I suspect by your comments in other threads (something about being married equating to being emasculated being my personal favorite) that you have a somewhat jaundiced view of women. I can’t argue that because I have a somewhat jaundiced view of men. If it weren’t for some great guys here on this site, I might have nothing but that negative opinion, and I’m sorry that the female element here has not been able to do the same for you.
I can also tell you that everything I learned that my ex did which was also detrimental to our relationship, ie; cheating, snorting pills, shooting pills, and many lies he told, I found out about accidentally. I mean everything. I never sought the information, I would just find out and every single time I found something out I was not seeking that info. For example, when I found out about the cheating, the fuc$#ng whore actually came to my house to tell me. I guess I’m not over my anger, sorry.
So, I hope you can forgive us for what she did, and I hope you can open yourself up enough to truly give yourself in a future relationship so you can experience that joy that only comes from two people giving and sharing with each other.