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(NSFW) Sex - How much do you like, how often, and how? What's too much?

Asked by odali (554points) February 6th, 2010
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Pretty straightforward.. Just trying to get a feel for what amount of sex people like to have. With my .. on and off girlfriend we’ll say .. we have sex anywhere from 3–6 times a night. It’s a pretty healthy relationship I’d say. But not everyone’s like that.

How much sex do you like time wise, quickies, 10 minutes, 20, 30, 40, minutes, hours?

How many times a day/week/month/year?

How? By waking up in the middle of the night, fits of lust, scheduled, etc..

How much sex is too much?

If you feel comfortable, age and gender would be interesting to know as well if there are any patterns, however I can understand if this type of this is not answered due to anonymity.

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odali's avatar

I’ll go first since I asked. Time wise – depends on time constraints but usually around an hour or so per session.

With my current partner, 3–6 times a night, when we are on (complicated relationship, thats a different story though), and that seems like the perfect amount.

How? Whenever. I like to when we first see eachother for the day, rip our clothes off and just go at it, or before bed to get tired, or just randomly throughout the day look at eachother and run into the other room. Spontinuity is key for us.

There is no such thing as too much sex. If I could have sex forever, I would.

I’m a Male in my 20s

Berserker's avatar

I may be boring, but we do this on the weekends most times.

It’s especially awesome on Wednesday night when neither of us expect it and it just happens. Three to six times a month.

However, that may be too little or too much, as my boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks back. :(

odali's avatar

@Symbeline I’m sorry to hear that Symbeline =( I’m sure he didnt break up with you because of the sex life.. but thats why I started this discussion.. its about what is right for you, already your answer is much different than mine, and there have only been 2 responses thus far..

If you need someone to talk to, let me know!

Berserker's avatar

@odali Sex wasn’t the reason. When we started dating I was so shy it took six months for us to even kiss. So I know that’s not it. Just a bit of a joke, but somewhere in there there must be some truth.

odali's avatar

@Symbeline Six months for a kiss???? he is a patient man indeed.. must have really cared for you, what happened?

odali's avatar

@Symbeline I didnt mean that in a mean way, i meant, did something happen, did he tell you what happened?

hungryhungryhortence's avatar

How much sex do you like time wise? I’d like the sex to last around an hour or so but the actual intercourse to be less than hour.

How many times a day/week/month/year? Optimally I’d like to have sex with my partner in the mornings when we wake and before we go to sleep at night, everyday.

How much sex is too much? Too much will be when my partner says he no longer desires me.

Berserker's avatar

@odali—Oh no, I know you didn’t mean it in a mean way. I apologize if i made it seem this way.
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I lack much class sometimes. XD

As for what happened well, look I don’t wanna be mooching for attention or nothing, and I can’t prove it but I think he found someone else lol. One Sunday evening he came and said to me, it’s over, I’m outta here. As I know now, he lives with two girls. I’m trying to ignore it lmao.—

onesecondregrets's avatar

10–30 minutes unless he’s good at what he does then maybe longer.
When I’m with someone, and we get past my trust issues, and it’s 10–30.. I don’t mind every day, if we’re both into it. Weekly is cool though too I guess, or a few days a week.

Waking up in the middle of the night, during the day, though I don’t like sex in the light ‘cause I don’t like my body (yeeeah I got issues), spontaneously, fits of lust. I like when random make outs with him turn into cute sex sessions, my favorite.
Scheduled? WTF that right there sucks the fun out of it.

I have a weird temperment with sex, really depends on circumstances what’s “too much.”

I’m 20, and I have a vagina.

Sampson's avatar

Penetration should last between 10–30 minutes. At least once a day, every day.

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tb1570's avatar

With my current gf I’d like to have it every day, a couple times a day if time and/or circumstances allowed. Quickies are nice sometimes, but I prefer 30 mins to an hour when time permits. I also like the occasional marathon session on the weekends. And I prefer making love over straight out f*cking, though there is a time and place for that as well.

clioi's avatar

all kinds all the time!!!

wundayatta's avatar

I’d do it three or four times a day if I had a partner who was into it. I’d do it in the morning; a quickie during the day if we were together, a welcome home kind of thing; a goodnight thing, and a half asleep roll over and find her there kind of thing.

Since I’ve never had a partner who was that into it, I have no idea if that’s just pure fantasy, or if I could be like that. Judging by how often I masturbate, it is certainly a possibility,

All my partners have been much less interested in sex. Since that was the case, I figured that it was true that all women were less interested than men. I thought that most women didn’t really like it. I heard all these stories about women having trouble with orgasms, so it didn’t seem like it was very interesting to them.

So I thought it was a man’s lot to constantly be frustrated. From what I read here and elsewhere, it seems like the men who aren’t frustrated are few and far between, and they have a great life. Oh well. If I go and give my wife an hour’s worth of massage, I might get lucky. Probably not.

Simone_De_Beauvoir's avatar

I like quickies and long sessions – ordinarily our sex sessions are an hour long. We have sex every day – if it doesn’t happen, we don’t go over 2 days without sex – it just becomes a priority after that. Generally we have sex once the kids are asleep but we can do it any time when someone else watches the kids as well or during their nap times. We always want to have sex so as soon as we’re able to, we do. I’ve never thought we’re having too much sex.

Oxymoron's avatar

Time wise, I’m going to have to say twenty minutes plus is good for me. It’s not so much how long it lasts but how good it is. I would rather have great sex for ten minutes than crappy sex for an hour or so. Ideally, I would love to have sex five to six times a week, but realistically four times a week is okay with me. Doesn’t matter to me how so much. It just happens whenever the moment is right. I prefer spontaneous sex though, when it isn’t expected. There is never too much sex… ever. I’m a nineteen year old girl.

deni's avatar

My bf and I usually do it twice a day. Sometimes three, but rarely. We get tired. Each session should be…well, this is tough. I’d say the penetration part alone should ideally be 20 minutes long but it is sometimes shorter and sometimes longer. Usually a bit shorter. I’m a 20 year old girl.

plethora's avatar

There is no such thing as too much sex for me. Fortunately and wonderfully, I met a woman a few months ago and we were both immediately attracted and since we live a good distance apart, we see each other every other weekend, three nights. We are in the bed most of that time. We both have enormous libidos. She never ever got enough in her marriage. I never get too much. We kind of amaze each other. I suspect that in more normal circumstances, it might not be so hot and heavy and enduring. I don’t necessarily mean we are humping like bunnies all that time, but we do it more times than either of us can count. We lose track.

When we go out, it’s like we just dial back the sexual aspect and public affection takes it’s place. The feelings are running deeper than either of us expected.

Lest you think you get too old for this stuff, she is 52 (and looks fabulous) and I am over 60. But I have worked out in the gym with a trainer for the past 15 years and it does make a different, both in appearance and endurance.

Thanks for asking.

Sophief's avatar

There is no limit. I can have sex all day, everyday, I cannot get enough.

jo_with_no_space's avatar

My boyfriend and I live 50miles or so apart, so we only see each other at weekends… Normally we have sex once or twice each weekend (Fri night-Sun night), so I guess if we lived together that’d be something like every other day. I generally want sex more than he does but my drive is synching a little more with his. I could still happily have sex every day but I don’t think he could. So, on those other days, he’ll help me get off in other ways.

We generally take our time when it comes to duration, maybe up to an hour and a half. Most of that is foreplay and then 10–15mins of sex and cuddling afterwards.

We more often do it at night as he is not a fan of morning sex… having said that, I love doing it in the daytime, afternoon, any time really. So I guess we compromise and sometimes do it in the daytime too.

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Rebecca_SJ's avatar

I love it! I want it often. I don’t know how much is too much. I haven’t gotten there yet.

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