@Bean <hugs> thank you honey <hugs> I do feel lucky, I wouldn’t trade hubby for the world, he’s my best friend and knows me better than anyone else, even puts up with my moods (and I can be a right moody mare at times lol) depression all sorts, and loves me all the same :-) Sometimes though i do wonder if it might have been better for him if I’d lived a bit, experienced life a bit more you know? I was raised by my Grandmother and I suppose i had a really old fashioned upbringing. Not that I’d have swapped her for anything she was an amazing woman and I adored her, but I think I’d have had different views and opinions and stuff if I’d have been raised by my birth mum because she’d have been younger. It’s really just how things worked out for me is all. I was just lucky to have met hubby when i did.
I really don’t think it makes any difference if you’ve had 1 partner or however many, it really doesn’t. The only thing that does matter is how they treat you (and you them). There is this double standard that exists in society that men should have as much sex as they can with as many partners as they can and they get a pint bought for them, a slap on the back and told how great they are, and how they are “one of the lads”. If a woman does the same thing she’s called all sorts of vulgarities and treated terribly. Well, sod that. No one has any right whatsoever to name call or judge anyone else and the world would be a far better place if the very vocal moral minority (and thankfully these closed minded muppets are in a minority) would just mind their beeswax. Why should there be one rule for men and another for women. I have a friend who is the same age as myself, mid 40’s and she hasn’t had a partner at all yet, I have other friends at work who have had several. what a dull world it would be if everybody did everything the same. I just hate that some folk like to judge things they’ve no right to is all. <hugs fellow jellies> Part of the reason I like it here so much. Jellies are all different ages, different backgrounds etc and its such a friendly place and everyone is also very open and non judgemental.
@Dan_DeColumna it was pretty rare in the 80’s too honey. Even back then we were snowed under by the media making you feel odd if you weren’t at it 24 hours a day, but I just never met anyone I wanted to do it with till I met hubby, and we were just pals for a long time before we were an “item” lol.
hugglys xx