@Cruiser While what you say is true, (the person isn’t worth your pain) it’s very difficult to simply cut off your feelings for someone if you’re not ready. You can’t blame someone for having trouble letting go. In fact, call me crazy, but I think it’s healthy to grieve the loss of someone you love. Human emotion isn’t meant to be clicked on and off. If I had my arm amputated, it ultimately wouldn’t be worth getting upset over because I’d just have to learn to live without it anyway, but it’s a major life change and I’m bound to be emotional about it.
My worst break up took 2 years to get over. In that two years, I learned a lot about myself, about relationships, and about the world. It was essential for my complete healing to take the time and feel every leg of the journey.