I pushed for it starting at a little before our 1yr anniversary of being together, but he didn’t want to. We finally moved in together recently after almost 2.5 years.
We had a little test run- About a year before getting our own place, my apartment flooded and was uninhabitable so I lived with him for about a month. It went really well, and I was hoping he’d just ask me to stay. He didn’t.
It was annoying to me that he wanted to wait. I’m much more spontaneous and react on much more of a gut level than he does- he’s very cautious and logical. But now that we’ve been living together for a few months, I’m glad he made us wait. I’m glad I spent most of my 20’s living alone and getting to know myself. I know him better now, and our relationship is stronger.
If you think you and your SO have reached a point in your lives and relationship where it’s a logical next step, go for it.
@deni “in fact it makes a lot more sense than traveling between two different houses every day. i just hate sleeping alone. so why not live together, if you’d usually be together anyhow? no point in paying 2 rents.”
I think it’s so much more than that. It’s about having a little safe haven to go to when things aren’t working, a place where you can decorate/play music/watch TV/make a mess/be anally neat/hog the bed/have a girls night/etc without compromise. Even though things are going really well in my living situation, I still miss having my space. Living together also means a break up is way more than a break up- it breaks up your home.