I feel the need to stand up for shockvalue here and put in my two cents. I think he made it clear in the explanation of the question that he doesn’t want to bash on his ex or post it “all over the internet”…I think it sounds like (correct me if I’m wrong) he’s wondering if there’s any sort of ratemyprofessor.com-type site where he can let people know if someone’s bad news to date. I don’t think posting it on one site equates to “all over the internet.” The problem with such a site (and the reason, I suspect why one doesn’t exist that I know of), is that you would end up with a lot of people bitching, moaning, and complaining about relationships that may have just ended badly for normal reasons. Or, relationships that end badly because both parties are truly at fault and everyone’s pointing fingers.
To me, it seems like the difference is that shockvalue doesn’t want to just talk trash, he’s trying to help others avoid what he’s going through. This seems like a more serious issue than just, “That bitch cheated on me and I feel the need to retaliate via writing stuff about her all over the web.” He’s pursuing legal action, for god’s sakes! Shockvalue, I think your intentions are good, but unfortunately I don’t know if such a site exists, and as ironhiway suggests, others might just have to figure it out on their own. Sad, but true.
And @Djbuu: You say that shockvalue shouldn’t be prejudiced against someone just because of his opinions about them. Well, the dictionary says prejudice is “an adverse opinion or leaning formed without just grounds or before sufficient knowledge.” I’m assuming if shockvalue dated this person, he’s not acting on his unfounded opinions about someone, but rather things that have actually, factually, happened between them. I think if you date a person, you probably get to know them well enough to determine whether or not you really need a restraining order against them.
I know someone (not an ex, but a former roommate) who I would be tempted to post about on such a site if it existed because of serious relationship problems I witnessed from a 3rd party stance while we lived together. There are valid reasons to want to keep others away, but more often than not people just have to be cautious so they don’t end up in shockvalue’s position.