Having to ask for it is the first clue. I never ask, wouldn’t dream of it. It sounds weak and needling. If I want something from someone, I make it a point to give it to them first, and again, and again, and again. Curiosity builds and a competitive characteristic develops in the partner. Sure, some time may have to pass before he gets a clue, but he will get a clue.
When he does, your reaction is very crucial to the situation. Men want to feel like they’ve conquered something, anything. The Antelope never “asks” to be eaten by the Lion. When he finally makes the move, make him chase it a bit. Put a price on it deserving of you being considered a special and reserved prize that only he can conquer.
Well look, lovemaking is a bit of a game. And part of that game is understanding that people (men) generally want what they cannot have. If you want something from him, then be the clever girl and give it to him first, again, and again, and again. Let competition, curiosity, and a little bit of guilt do the rest.
He’ll attack you with a mission to prove something. Make sure you let him know that nobody compares to him. Tell him he’s powerful and feed the Lions ego. Moan like you mean it and give him all the encouragement in the world.
Whatever you do… don’t say “Well it’s about time! I wish you’d do this more often.”
Keep it in reserve and watch him chase after it with a hunger like no other.