@Siblinings He’s going through a really rough time right now and probably needs a friend. You can still be there for him without dating him, because it sounds like he isn’t ready to have a relationship yet. It’s really hard to date someone who isn’t reliable. Probably the best thing that both of you could do is just be friends right now. You’re one of the few people who knows that he’s gay, so you should keep his secret and talk to him if it seems like he’s having a tough time. He seems to really want to talk to you because he calls and texts you so much. But you don’t need to be in a relationship with someone who always stands you up.
Maybe after being friends for a while, he’ll feel more comfortable with the idea of being out and you guys can start a real relationship. If he does decide to come out, you could be a big help to him.
Something like this happened to me in high school. I’m bi, and I was active in my school’s GSA. The teacher said that a girl in my Spanish class was having some trouble at home and maybe I should talk to her. It turns out that she was gay and only out to one or two people, and that her parents were strict Catholics. We just talked for a while, but we ended up dating and the same thing happened. She called all the time and sent hundreds of text messages, but cancelled dates or we could only hang out with a big group of friends as a cover story. I broke up with her but we decided to stay friends. Now we’ve been out of school for a few years and she’s living with her girlfriend. I’m really happy for her.