My husbands Grandmother passed away and they had a wake (open casket) which I successfully put my foot down and banned out small children from attending. (little girls 8 & 9)

Unfortunately the next morning when I demanded we stay in the car as the final viewing was held my husband demanded the children come in- backed by his family- who pointed out that everyone elses kids were there but were in the far back. I relented but once inside my husband took them to “see” grandma. Inside I was seething but did not want to make a big scene so I worked on gently explaining to the girls about death.

I spoke with them as positively as I could about what they saw and thought that all was well because they seemed to be okay with everything.

I was positive and honest when they asked questions.

It is now 2:00am and one of my daughters just woke up with horrible nightmares and I am livid.

Please advise me on how to:

1. Help my girls process this emotional trauma.

2. How to deal with my anger at my husband for exposing them to this after repeatedly telling him they were not ready.