While there are gaps in our life together where we seem a bit distant, but it is often due to one of the other of us struggling to keep our balance emotionally. We are very attuned to each other and support each other through those struggles.
For the most part we have fun talking and doing things together. We both know that a relationship takes constant effort from both parties to keep it healthy and vibrant.
My wife is good at taking the initiative to get us to steer our way back to each other. With my ADHD, I can get mired in an activity and fail to emerge to make contact with her.
She understands my defects and provides signals that cue me to shift gears.
I love her dearly and suffer a lot when we are apart long periods.
I’ve been away visiting my daughter and grandchildren but our talks on the phone have been fun and supportive – sometimes better than our talks when we both are home.