This has been happening to me recently too, with some of my co-workers. It’s really hard getting used to pulling back from your high expectations of your friends. It really is, and one knotch below what you hope, is just a little disheartening. And, agreed, I feel at a low point too when things like these happen. However, it’s not only your friend, but something about them has altered in their life which is making them change in this way. When I’m suddenly “bringing them down”, they pull back etc. And at these times, it’s not only my off days, but it’s when I realize my options. If I give so much time, and patience, but am treated by dirt, and how they don’t even realize what they’re doing, let alone try and fix what’s happening, I wonder, are they really the people who I want to be friends with. Of course they are, maybe they’re going through a stage, maybe I can make up excuses to prevent myself from reaching the truth. But over the past few days, you need to let them go, and focus on yourself and that will really help. Not only this, but I have been thinking about their actions, and what they say, their body language. This is what I’ve learned, and maybe this only applies to my situation, but hopefully it can help out my fellow jelly here too :) I’ve learned that they treat you this way, and now I’m speaking specifically about a VERY long time friend, who’ve I’ve been with since college. And when I notify her of what’s happening, how she should realize it, etc. she accuses me of only going to her to complain. I don’t do this, and I know that she needs her time. Anyways, I have learned that she treats me like this because she knows that I’ll never leave her. She knows that together, we can both overcome the difficulties and obstacles that arise in our friendship. But, what she doesn’t realize is how she has changed/ is changing and how it has affected me. But, I know that she and I can both and are still both going to continue being friends, because in the long run, this experience will benefit us both. My greatest piece of advice for you is, go to the friends who you know will never turn their backs on you, and be thankful for their kindness and friendship. Give the others a break, let them find their way, but most importantly, stay strong. Don’t give up because things will turn out better.