My genitals stand for my girlfriend.

I have penis envy.

I have no sex life. So I hope my penis is not who I am.

Love me love my cock.There’s a song in there somewhere.

i have not had any such thoughts since my early teens.

i would say, you either understand your own mind very well and spend a lot of time analyzing your self, or you have some kind of minor psychological problem.

I’m not genital driven, I am separate from my pee pee.

Nope, not really. I derive value from my work, and from intimacy with other people. In fact, sexual needs (like food) tends to get in the way of what I’d rather be doing.

That’s not to say I don’t like sex (and I can definitely use it to fulfill the intimacy need), but I can’t really think of a way in which I identify with my bits.

I think Freud thought almost everything we do was driven by sex. I don’t really agree with that. I mean, yes, I’m 18 and I have an absentee boyfriend for much of the time, so my drive is pretty high, but I don’t associate it with my entire well-being. In many ways, it’s just kind of on the side. Even in the time when I am away from my boyfriend, I am perfectly fine. It’s not that important to me that there be someone interested in my genitalia right there with me. It’s more just being around him that I crave, not necessarily the sexual aspect of it.

I’m having a hard time understanding your question, but I will attempt to answer.
So, I have me, my vagina, my ass and my tits. We’re all one unit though. None of these things have to be admired by anyone in order for me to be fulfilled. They just stand for things that are apart of my body. They don’t have their own secret identity. Besides my tits; Pinky and The Brain.
Ain’t nothing going inside the vagina unless I truly love you and I know you love me for me and not my ‘parts’. That or just buy me a nice lobster dinner and I’ll spread em’.

I am sorry you have this issue and I really do think it’s an issue. I hope you will find something that helps you get out of this mindset. I don’t think much about my vagina – I only think of it when others bring to my attention that because I have a vagina, I should act a specific way – a way that doesn’t fit.

I’m currently celibate and I’m not well hung, so my answer is “errr…not at all”.

I identify with my bellybutton.

I generally never think of my p*ssy until I plan on using it.

@Shae omg that was hilarious!

But yeah… none of it’s really a factor unless I want it to be.

I’d say my genitals are the very least of what I am. I find it kinda sad that someone would associate who they are with their sex organs.

@Shae .. Great answer.

You lost me. If I understood the question as you intended, I don’t think that way at all.
I am me, all of me, I might use parts for different activities, but it’s a package deal.

@Grisaille Picking all that lint out of it? You really should stop touching yourself down there. Your belly button, I mean.

Hmmm. One more issue to put on the therapy list.

I’m not sure if I’m fucked up or if I explained the concept in a way that no one got it. It’s like when people accuse of thinking with your little head. Except not like that, because it’s not like your dick is doing all the thinking. It’s more like if you say what body part represents the most of me—maybe an arm if you think of yourself as strong, or a heart if you think of yourself as nurturing, or a leg for energetic or something.

What body part symbolizes you the most? It doesn’t have to symbolize all of you or even half of you. It’s just the part that represents more of you than any other part. It’s a conceit, really. When you move through the world, metaphorically speaking, what part of you moves first?

Or, looking at it another way, what aspect of you do you identify with first? Your gender? Your height? Your strength? Your speed? You sensuality? Sexuality? This is about the ontology of embodiment, I guess.

Well,perhaps I’ve lost it completely. I must sound like a nut.

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@Vunessuh omg! you are hillarious!!

@elenuial What I do in the privacy of my bedroom is my business.

I also don’t think of myself as a bunch of body parts. I think where I can relate trying hard here loll is if I am having a wonderful romance with someone, and you get that “I feel so sexy all over feeling. But it is all wrapped us and neatly packaged along with my heart and brain. I guess there are tons of dicks and vagina’s to look at one the net, we all have them, but they on their own have little purpose. (Apart from peeing and other functions).

I pick my brain to identify with.

Um, wow. I would have to say “not at all”.

Lol I don’t think mens genitals give them a chance to forget they’re there.

From my experience with partners their genitals are standing to attention the moment they wake up…apparently the reason I’ve been told is because ‘it needs a wee’ and gives a man reason to grab it and give it an affectionate tug…any excuse I say :)

@Silhouette interesting. The **** ** ** **** is what I find representative.

@liminal Yes, asterisk placement is very important!!

I love to feel sensual and I think that can be an every day think if you’re in a loving relationship but my vulva isn’t me.

I don’t think I’ve ever heard this problem before. Maybe your emotional attachment to them is stronger than usual. But for me, my private parts mean zip.

Well, since my private parts almost killed me, (The big C), I have come to the conclusion, now that they are healthy, (<<<YAY), to cherish, respect and honor them every single day. I consider them sacred, as I do life in general.

I once read somewhere that a doctor could recognise her/his patients by their genitals and I have no problem believing that…

@Adagio made me smile!

Ah crap! What is the meaning of a penis or a vagina?

If you had to pick a part of your body that was most symbolic of you, what would it be?

How much of your identity is tied up with your gender?

My mind is definitely the part of my body that I lead with; the other bits scramble to follow as they will and can.

I dont think I’ve ever considered it in the way you are suggesting… it’s there, & it does a job. Other than when it’s in use I dont really think about it at all.

@wundayatta I think my face because it is there my soul “lives” in my eyes, my words, my smile.

I think about my boyfriends cock all the time. Infact I just text him to let him know where and what it will be doing tonight.. I don’t think about my own genitals at all. But I can understand why a man would, their cock is important to them in many ways.

I don’t think about my genitals specifically but I have a bit of unhealthy focus on my sexual desirability affirming my value to a partner. For me, sex and love are a tangled mess. If I were to lose my sexual functions then I’m sure I’d have some mental crisis. This disappoints me about myself but so far I’ve not found much way around it.

I have a vajajay that I never give much thought. No one needs to pray to the vajajay in order for me to feel loved and fulfilled. I’m a pretty self actualized person without anyone kneeling and praying to the vajajay. I do keep my brass cahones in my purse as I feel they make a very nice weapon and my big penis whose name is Jose in the night stand. But I don’t spend much time dwelling on either of those unless I get horny or I want to beat someone ass who is trying to take my purse.