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When is a child old enough to decide for themselves?

So, my husband disagree on something we both feel rather strongly about…
Our sons hair.

I prefer it long. He got his first haircut in January, at exactly 2.5 years old..and yes, it was pretty long. I hated that we did it, and didn’t like the cut in the back, but the front looked nice and it was less messy when it came to dinner time, since he won’t let us put it in a ponytail.

My husband says it’s time for another haircut. And I do sort of agree, and we may cut it closer to the warmer season…but when do we allow our son to decide?
When we ask him if he wants a haircut, he says no. But, I doubt he really knows what it means. We distracted him during his last haircut, which was done at my friends apartment. So it wasn’t a big production at a salon or anything.

He will be 3 in July, and I have cared for other 3 year olds and they all seemed to have quite a gripe on their opinions regarding such a thing.
Is it unrealistic to ask him what he prefers? Is this something we should do until he asks us not to?

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