@ZEPHYRA It happened to me. I’m a totally different person now than I was, even 15 years ago. (I’m 55 now) It involves a great deal of hard work and being brutally honest with yourself, and never giving up on yourself. It helps if you have friends who refuse take your crap, and who see through all the smokescreen, folks who refuse to give up on you. I had to go searching to find friends like that. I took a bunch of classes, and changed my friends so I could become who I wanted to be. I’m still working on myself, but it’s a happier life for sure.
In short, you get to say how your life goes.