Recently I’ve seen a few tv shows that did studies on humans and monogamy. They claimed that our instincts don’t automatically make us desire to be with one person forever (at least not sexually). Do you believe this theory?
I’ve never really thought much about it, purely from a biological standpoint, it seems it would be most beneficial to spread ones genes as far and wide as possible. But then mating for life has it’s benefits too. The problem is we can (or at least like to say we can) think and rationalize, which one would suspect can lift us past our base instincts.
Are we trying to force something that just isn’t programed in us?
Depends on how you view it, from my perspective, some people make a great go of it for others, somewhere along the way they just drift apart, it’s just not for everyone. If you’re trying to be something you’re not, well that’s forcing it. It seems though many people don’t understand their own desires all that well and suffer from a great deal of social pressure so, I’m sure there are plenty who are forcing something that isn’t “programed” but then as I said, not everyone is the same.
Will we always desire to be with other men/women even when we should be happy with the person we already have?
Hmmm… it’s that last part that gets me, “_we should be happy with the person we already have?” There is always going to be desire, whether or not acting on that desire is worth the risk of what you have, that’s a different story. But why do we have to be happy with just one person (I’m not talking just sex here, I’m speaking of loving, fulfilling, relationships)? I think that concept of needing to be happy in monogamous fashion is more a social construct playing naturally from the fact that some people are wired or at least conditioned that way._