I can’t say anything about fluther, but in the past I have found sites like this to be excellent places to get romantically iinvolved. I was different then, but I think that if you put out the right vibe—i.e., a vibe that says such things are not unwelcome, you’d probably be pretty successful on fluther, too. I have heard a couple of stories of guys “stalking” women here, too, so I’m pretty sure some are trying to use this as a dating site.
Oh. Wait. Wrong question. Um. I don’t know what happened to that question. Probably the secret police removed it. Or at least sent it back for moderation. Perhaps it didn’t have good details.