I think if their goal is to make you break up with them because they are too chicken to do it themselves, they will try and push as many of your buttons as they can (for example):
- So if all of a sudden you find them drinking/taking drugs more often and you have said you don’t like it when they do that in the past.
- If they get out of something that is usually a tradition or ritual for you both as a couple…for example they make plans to go out with friends on your “watch dvd’s and snuggle on the couch” night.
- If they cheat on you, and flat out tell you straight away….
- If they are passive aggressive, or just passive for that matter….
- If they seem to not care at all if you have to work late and can’t see them, and they don’t even pretend that they do.
I guess if you notice a change in behavior it always means something. But that something might not involve their feelings for you. There is a possibility it is something internal, and they are going through a bout of depression for instance. And if you are the person that is closest to them, they might take their pain out on you.
They could just need some space, and needing space in a relationship, especially a serious one does not always mean they want to break up.
I think in these situations it is best not to mind read…..If you feel something is wrong, you have to ask.