@curiouscat :
hmm.. think of it this way: whenever you are concern about something, for instance you are afraid that you won’t be able to do well in something, instead of worrying over the “what if you fail“s, change your perspectives and think about what you can do to improve/solve the situation.. For example you are worried about the basic millitary training that you have to do in 2 months – so instead of worrying that you are not fit enough, you should do something about them, like exercise more and think about how fun the training will be – meet new friends, learn something new, etc. because just by worrying over it won’t change the situation.. :)
For the studies part – I know they can be really frustrating.. I’ve been there and I’m an ambitious type of person, so I always stress myself if I got bad grades, etc. But one thing to remember, do the best that you could do – meaning: you know what’s your limit and you will definitely know if you had put enough efforts or not.. once you know that you already tried as best as you could and already put your best foot forward, learn to satisfy with the results. You need to appreciate your own efforts.. Buy something that you really like to reward yourself.. – I always did this after my finals to reward myself for studying hard :)
Don’t ignore your problems, but learn how to solve it.. Problems exist for you to grow to be a better person.. – so if you see the bright side of it, you should actually be thankful to the problems ;) You see what I mean.. Once you can see the bright side of your problems, you’ll find yourself be much happier.. I know it’s not easy but take it one step at a time.. Talk to your mom.. confess your problems with her because adults often have more experience than us and I’m very sure that she’ll support you in whatever that you do because you are her child :)
Remember to change you perspectives, the way you see your problems, and learn to satisfy with the outcomes when you know you already put your best foot forward. Don’t mix all your problems altogether at the same time.. sort them out and solve them from the easier ones to the hard ones.. Good Luck! :)