I can’t think of anything my parents pushed so hard that it caused me embarrassment or emotional discomfort. Now my mom did do things like in 4th grade she sat me down in the bathroom and tweezed some of my very stray eyebrows, which hurt. And, I was not allowed to join the Girl Scouts, because she didn’t want to be bothered with obligations. And, my dad used to tell a story about how I would not eat two more bites to finish some food because I was full (which he thought was fantastic that I would not eat them, but I found it embarrassing). And, my house growing up was rather messy, as I got older it became worse and worse, and I found that embarassing, I used to clean up before friends would come over, but it really was never a house I was very proud of, although I loved my own bedroom. But, nothing that created intense pressure on me to conform to an idea or act in a way that would embarass me.
About religion my parents were atheists and religion almost never came up. We did celebrate Chanukah and Passover, more of a family gathering. Religion was basically absent from my upbringing. It did not affect me growing up though, it was a very diverse community and religion was basically a non-issue. We didn’t care what religion each other was.