For me, it’s easy to fall in love. I find there to be many wonderful women in the world. But it’s not always healthy for me to fall in love. I can use it as a kind of drug to make me feel better.
That comes from self-esteem issues. The thing that makes me feel best about myself is when someone is in love with me. This is not something that makes my wife happy. So, my frustrated urges to find someone who will reaffirm that I’m lovable tend to make me a little more nasty to my wife, which is bad. Very bad.
In the long run, I have to figure out how to feel good about myself without getting a new woman, no matter how wonderful she is, to confirm it. The problem is that, while there is a rush from falling in love, it doesn’t really fix my problem. I don’t think anyone can fix this problem for me.
I think a lot of people use love this way. If you are insecure, what can make you feel better than to know someone is batshit over you? Of course, it’s got a built in time bomb attached, because when things break apart—and they often do when a relationship is built on desperation—the pain of loss is so much deeper. I could tell you about that, but that’s too depressing.
I’m sure there are other reasons why people fall in love easily. I’ll bet there are other reasons why I have done that so many times in my life. But low self-esteem is the one that seems most obvious to me.