jbfletherfan, lately, i have learned that she had a twin sister with psychological problems. she has been hospitalized for many years. i was never told this. it was hidden from me. maybe, she thought that if we married, our children might suffer from the same condition. if this were true, she should have at least told me. i was left high and dry for years with no answer. if this was her problem, maybe calling off our wedding, was a good deed on her part. maybe the saying, “if you love them, let them go” applied in this situation.