@GrumpyGram No, I think my wanting an open relationship had to with having feelings for others while I was with my partner and realizing that those feelings had nothing to do with my love for my ex-husband (who was not okay with this arrangement) and that they didn’t take away from love I can feel for a primary partner. I knew (when I left my ex-husband, for other reasons) that from that point forward I wanted to be with someone who would be open to the idea of an open relationship because that’s what I wanted from that point forward. Luckily, when I met my now husband, he was up for it out of an ideological interest (as he’s never been in one either) and it’s worked out for us.