He shares values with me he’s actually been able to live and enjoys them rather than them being a challenge.
He has a giant heart and gets a lot out of helping others which I really respect.
He is mostly easygoing and optimistic, a little kooky and feels fine like that. I feel similar so we enjoy each other and encourage the fun and spontaneous.
He is very sharp minded under his fun fascade and that appeals to me in a partner, makes me feel safe to speak my own mind and feel on the same page when it’s time to get down to serious matters.
We share similar spiritual/religious ideas.
He shows me he’s a doer and not just full of good intentions and this is of HUGE importance to me. We bring out in each other the want to be better and the persistence to actually try things for our relationship rather than kicking back and believing it’ll all take care of itself.
He’s very sexy to me, sure. Sexual compatible is important but not a dealbreaker as long as both people are willing to work on what they want or need. His sexual openness with me makes him more and more attractive all the time. I will be honest and say if he wasn’t willing to be sexually flexible then I probably wouldn’t have stayed with him as a lover and partner, he would’ve gone into the “friends” group.