I have a friend at work that :
1. she frequently tries to find out how much my boyfriend earns by asking indirect but obvious questions
2.she always wants to know the wherabouts of people that are absent from the office
3.when she wants to go out for lunch she asks for suggestions as to where to go but then always ends up turning them down and demanding her own choice.
3. she likes to label people that are not talkative as boring and considering I am quiet I find this offensive.
4. when she takes a sick day she never says what she was ill with but if you take one she questions you about it.
5. she is always complaining about how boring her life is.
6. She questions everyone about their life outside the office and therefore knows everything about everyone’s personal life at work but I feel like it is more nosiness rather than genuine interest
7. I and another friend prefer to keep our work and social life separate and therfore not particularly chatty at work and she tries to label us as antisocial which I find hurtful and rude.
8. One week she was off sick with a type of illness u won’t want your colleagues to know about and then when she got back she wanted to go to lunch with me everyday even going so far as to tell me to change where I am feeling to go to lunch for her… which I found unusual as we had not been lunching everyday for a while . I gradually began to feel like she was doing this only to avoid people asking her why she was off. I felt used because the next week she was not eager to go to lunch with me.
8. One day she went so far as to try to randomly tell me that I must cancel my doctor’s appointment and go to her doctor instead when she doesn’t even know who my doctor is.
9. When my bf and i were only dating for a few months she asked me directly if she would be invited to our wedding..and she was serious ok…not joking.. I mean I don’t hang out with her outside work..i find this a weird question.
10. I was given the responsibility for photography at a company event. I asked her to borrow her camera which she was happy to do. then one day after the event she came to work and casually told me she handed over the pictures to another guy in the office without even letting me see them. I found this really rude as photography is not just about taking photos it is about presenting them as well and she didn’t even realise what she did was wrong untill I confronted her about it.

11. I am black and wear my hair natural and neat and she is not black… She from time to time is always trying to tell me I must straighten my hair.. I find this really rude and borderline racist .. but she doesn’t see this.

What is her problem? Or is there something wrong with me? Why are some people like this . It’s really starting to annoy me.. but because we work together I prefer to avoid talking to her about it…however she calls me her friend but more and more I feel like I don’t want someone like this as a friend