Talking about marriage certainly can be a way of saying “I love you.” There are many things that we are uncomfortable talking about, especially where there are strong feelings and we aren’t sure whether they are reciprocated.
You can certainly love someone within a month. Even a week. These feelings are true, but who knows if they will last. No one can tell. I will tell you this, though. If you want to have a long lasting relationship, you are going to need to learn some serious communication and relationship skills. They don’t teach these things in high school.
Most relationships that start at your age don’t last for years and years. Marriages that start at your age are also unlikely to last til death do you part.
What you guys need to learn is how to talk opening about things. You say you don’t want to make him uncomfortable, but he is making you uncomfortable because you don’t know what he means. Does this sound good to you? It doesn’t to me. It sounds like a good codependency starting.
You can’t sublimate your worries in order to not worry him. That leads to a bad relationship, let me tell you. You have to talk openly about this stuff—about what he’s thinking about and what you’re thinking about, or it won’t last another month. Or if it does, it will be an uncomfortable month.
Yes. His feelings can be real. You don’t really say what your feelings are. Do they include love and marriage? What you guys have to have is a way to talk about this stuff. It is terribly important. No tip toeing around.
If you don’t talk about it, then you are just playing at a relationship. Which is fine. Then you can have your worries about does he love you or doesn’t he and all that. It’s great fun, although it feels terribly important at your age. But if you want to be serious. You have to figure out the communication thing. There really should be a course in high school about relationships, but that would make too much sense.