I am dealing with that right now in a 15 yr. friendship.
I have made a lot of allowances for this friends petty and killjoy attitude, but, it has really spurred into high gear this year. I have empathy for her unhappiness but it wears thin.
One huge defining moment, amongst many others, was with mutual friends last New Years eve.
This person made a big fuss because she felt our mutual friends were ’ too affectionate’ with each other and it made her uncomfortable! She then also said to me later that she felt they were being insensitive to her as she was going through the breakup of a 5 year relationship. Just totally blew my mind!
Our mutual friend was enjoying her first relationship in quite a few years and is so deserving of the happiness she is experiencing after coming out of a rough patch herself.
I was appalled at this womans behaviors.
A 50 something woman acting like a jealous 15 year old.
Spare me, please! lol
It’s one of those things where I have learned more about the nature of her emotional issues this year than in all the prior years I have known her.
I agree, envy/jealousy is a killer and if one has to always hold back on any happy news to avoid the sour grapes squirting you in the eye, well..time to re-evaluate the relationship.