Hello @monStar. I’d like to share with you my similar experience with dating.
I too did not have a boyfriend for a long long time. I really didn’t consider it a priority, and no one really asked me out or anything. I guess I was probably focused on my regular friends and doing the things I like. I too am a very creative person who finds a lot of comfort in doing things on my own. And am quirky, intelligent, etc. Very similar in fact.
I did things I liked, spent time with friends doing fun things, in general I was content living my life by myself.
Then I started a new job, met a guy, started up a conversation, which eventually resulted in us seeing a movie and then seeing each other. And we are still together now, going on 6 years I believe I kinda lose count of these things.
I wasn’t looking for anyone, it just happened while I was going on my daily life.
You know the cliche advice they give you in magazines: just be yourself, don’t look, love will find you? It’s cliche because it’s often true. Sure you can find romance by actively searching it out. But I wouldn’t do that without having given it an honest chance of happening naturally. Try to get out of the house and do something in public, after all you won’t meet anyone new in your own house. Take a class, like a painting class or a new art skill. There are plenty of these if you look around. That way you’ll be around a group of people with a common interest, which eases the discussion. But you’re not going to take classes with the primary intent of meeting guys, you’re taking classes to better yourself and to learn a new thing you want to learn. You will meet new friends. Some of these friends may have the potential to be more than friends. Many will not. Such is life. I’ve met some of my best friends doing things like this, taking a language class, etc. Sometimes we don’t even have the initial hobby in common anymore. But that hobby at that time was a bridge to let us get to know each other better. And if I hadn’t been in a relationship already I can guarantee you this method would have resulted in me being in one.
But even if it doesn’t result in love, it can result in friendship which opens a door down the line. And something I’ve learned is that life is all about opening doors where you never think you’ll need them. A friend you meet invites you to a party, and boom, there is the friend-of-a-friend who you have an immediate connection with. Chance encounters. Random encounters. You have to take the initiative to open some doors for others to start opening up, and it can be tough for introverts to do this, but give it a shot first before going on to dating sites etc. I guarantee you there are many guys who are happy doing similar things that you do – staying in, making crafts, playing games, reading books, tinkering with electronics, etc. Ironically enough, all these guys tend to be the ones who avoid parties/gatherings/other social events where they can meet girls who are like them. But hey, with you out at these events, half the battle is won!