More difficult, at least when underaged children are involved. I think that children should be made more important in the process, with an advocate primarily for the children always involved. There should be studies done to determine what is in their best interest, with the interests of either adult being placed secondary.
There should be guidelines which are enforced with all of the protection that the law allows to ensure that the children are provided for by both parents, financially and emotionally. This protection and overview should not end when the divorce is final, but should be available at a reasonable expense at any time until the children have reached the age of majority.
I would be very willing to have society provide this expense. In my opinion, so many others of our “entitlements” are far less important and less well deserved. Frequently a parent is unable to seek redress when the other parent has failed to provide or consider the needs of the children. I have seen this selfishness apply to parents of either gender, not just the fathers.
I have seen too many situations where the adults in these situations place their own interests before those of their innocent offspring. Selfishness is rampant among many couples when they are unhappy with their marital choices. Adults made the choices, and the children should be shielded as much as possible from the effects of these choices.