@poofandmook Let me reemphasize that you should not do anything you do not feel comfortable with. If you think this guy is playing a game and plans to dump you as soon as he gets in your pants, then let the relationship go on as long as you need to believe he is sincere. Let him go if he gives you an ultimatum about it.
You do not owe any man sex. It is your choice. If you choose to wait for a year, it’s your choice and that is fine. However, I would wait until I felt like I knew the guy very well before getting intimate.
Be wary of first impressions. Things can seem really great at the beginning of getting to know someone. This is because you hardly know anything. To fill in the gaps, you create fantasies of who the guy is, and those fantasies are of a wonderful person. Just be wary. That fantasy is almost always wrong.
Understanding the character of a person is like science in a way. You want them to behave the same way in similar situations over and over. If you see this, you can be relatively sure this is the real person, not some actor.
You’ve been burned, you say. I’m sorry about that. So your reticence is understandable. There is no formula for trust. You have to decide at some point if a person is predictable enough to get involved with. Wait until that point. You do not have to have sex with someone before then, and probably shouldn’t—depending on what you think sex is about.