I totally agree with @MissAusten
I am appalled that your doctor would share these horror story birthing issues with you!
As MissAustin said, I had a similar experience with induced labor and that was the worst of it all in all, although my daughter was 8.4 and not over 9–10 lbs. still…a big enough baby! lol
Babies have gotten bigger in the last 30–40 years due to better nutrition and less emphasis on weight gain.
Studies have shown that mothers that gain, on average, 35–40 lbs. tends to have an 8+ lb. babies, which is healthier for the infant to be born at a robust birth weight.
I was only 5.7 back in the late 50’s when doctors put mothers to be on strict diets and encouraged only 20 lb. weight gains.
I did experience some pretty good tearing even with an episiotomy but, my daughters head never ‘molded’ the way babies usually do, it was like a cantelope, and that was what caused my tearing, her shoulders slipped out like a bowl of jello after that canonball head of hers. lol
I read somewhere once that a woman is designed to give birth up to a 15 lb. baby. Your body is prepping itself for this task now, never fear, it will be fine, and yes, everyones experience is unique.
And remember…it IS true…the SECOND that baby is born the pain stops and you forget it completely!
I remember how great it was to stretch out on my belly that first night after the birth….sheer joy!