I’m only authoritarian in the kitchen. People either have to do what I say or get out (usually what I say is to get out, or at least stay in the corner).
I’m specifically anti-authoritarian in any way possible, and actively work to do things that I think encourage non-authoritarian culture change/cultural growth. I even rarely defer to “because I say so” when working with children.
When working on specific tasks and projects, it’s customary in non-authoritarian societies to give extra weight to the word of whoever knows a lot about the subject. Hence why we read about indigenous societies having “war chiefs”, “peace chiefs”, “hunting chiefs” and so on. They’re typically not titles of “power-over” authority, but rather recognition of skill or knowledge in some exceptional amount. So my semi-joking description of my kitchen craft above is a prime example; most people I know respect my skill in the kitchen and defer to me.
Also, since all of the conceptions of “enlightenment” I’ve heard of basically boil down to disconnecting oneself from connection and attachment to the physical world, and that disconnection from physical reality is basically insanity, I can only conclude that the goal of “enlightenment” is to make oneself batsh*t crazy, just in a relaxed, detached way. the funny thing is that I’m only a little joking