Hmmm…..you have been asking some very interesting questions of late, zen. :) Hmmm…could <3 be in the air?
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In my case, it was not…at all.
What did I learn?
1.That you don’t know a person, until you take either a) a long trip with them or b) live with them.
2.That even if their parents are great people, that is not an indicator that they are normal/nice/fantastic.
3. If they are not emotive during courtship, it is not going to get better later.
4. If they are too emotive during courtship, it is not going to get better later.
5. If they are clingy or aloof, that will be even more prevalent as time wears on.
6. Whatever you thought was “quirky” when you met someone will become “annoying” eventually.
7. If they won’t talk to you about their past relationships, there is something they are hiding.
8. If they have never been to therapy and not dealt with their “baggage” or at least know that they are carrying some…then that’s a challenge.
9. That a second marriage is really unnecessary and probably better for both parties..if you love each other, then just live together….unless you are going to have more children.
That being said…...you may have found someone that is perfect for you. Just be sure to ask the right questions, be observant and don’t have sex…...until you are sure…..because sex changes everything. Reason goes out the window when sex enters the boudoir. And if that has already happened…just be careful. (I sound like your mom. Sorry.)
zen…we all are pulling for you, you know that